Bagaimana ‘Berteman’ dengan Si Sinis


Marilah kita berdoa sejenak untuk saudara-saudara di Palestina, syria, dan rohingya. Doakan mereka agar tetap memiliki semangat dan kekuatan untuk berjuang. Dan semoga semangat mereka bisa mengilhami kita untuk ‘melawan’ orang-orang sinis. Hehehe.

Beberapa dari kita mungkin agak eneg kalau bertemu orang-orang sinis. Memang jumlahnya tidak banyak, karena 1 saja cukup mengguncang lingkungan sekitar mereka. Beberapa dari kita mungkin ada yang memiliki teman sinis ketika sekolah, kuliah, atau seperti saya yang baru bertemu di dunia kerja. Beruntunglah bagi mereka yang tidak harus setiap hari bertemu dengan orang-orang sinis. Percayalah, itu salah satu karunia Tuhan pada Anda.

Bagi yang kurang mengenal karakter si sinis, mungkin sering jengkel jika tiba-tiba mulut mereka terbuka dan terlanjur mengeluarkan kata-kata mutiara. Ya namanya juga si sinis, pasti kata-kata yang keluar adalah kata-kata sinis yang mengguncang dunia. Para korban si sinis ini tidak perlu jengkel sebenarnya, hanya perlu tenang dan menghadapi dengan cerdik. Orang yang sinis ini tidak selalu mengeluarkan kata-kata sinis. Kadang-kadang mereka bisa berkomentar seperti orang normal pada umumnya. Saya malah shock ketika orang-orang sinis ini mengeluarkan kata-kata normal dan selama 1 detik mata saya seakan terbelalak.

Teman sinis saya adalah orang yang suka tiba-tiba komentar, terutama kalau sedang berkumpul dengan beberapa orang. Komentar-komentarnya tidak nyambung tetapi memojokkan. Memang tipe si sinis teman saya ini tipe artis, artinya ingin mendapatkan perhatian atau pengakuan dari komentar-komentar sinisnya, tentu saja dengan menjadikan orang lain sebagai bulan-bulanan. Ketika moodnya membaik, dia bisa berkata normal. Dan ketika something happen, maka dia jadi sinis, begitu seterusnya. Saya rasa ini bukan gangguan jiwa, tapi saya berdoa semoga tidak mengalami gangguan seperti itu, aamiin. Kalau dari pengalaman pribadi saya, selain obsesi ng-artis, si sinis ini tidak suka ada orang yang lebih dari dirinya, tidak suka orang lain merasa senang pada diri sendiri atau sesuatu, atau memang kadang hanya ingin menjatuhkan orang lain.

Berikut cara menghadapi orang sinis dari WikiHow (silahkan diterjemahkan sendiri ya) :
1. Notice how the sarcastic person’s mood is. Sometimes people become sarcastic when they’re irritated, scared, or having a bad day, and other times they do it when they are surrounded by people.

2. Evaluate the “feel” of the conversation; you should be able to tell if the person is truly being sarcastic, or is just saying the wrong things. Do this by paying attention to the topics, tone and the body language.

3. Respond in a civil manner, even if you think they’ve insulted you. Try and reverse the thing they’ve said and turn it on them, as it makes them look like the weak one. If it’s someone you are trying to help stop being a hurtful sarcastic person have a way to let them know.

4. Repeat what they say to you, if they continuously insult you. Or, better yet, just walk off.

5. Fake stupidity. Most sarcastic comments are, when taken literally, the opposite of what is intended. It is the person’s tone that gives the sarcasm away. Being sarcastic is not a lot of fun if you refuse to acknowledge its existence. For example:
If a sarcastic person says, “Yeah, I’m sure you know all about it,” simply respond by saying, “Oh, wow. I’m really flattered that you think so, but I actually still have a lot to learn.”
If a sarcastic person says, “Everyone knows how world famous the French are for being polite to English-speaking tourists,” you can simply respond by saying, “Really? I hadn’t heard that before, but I look forward to going even more now.”
When someone is sarcastic simply reply “See you next Tuesday!” and walk away.
If someone says, “Nice one, Einstein,” ask them “Who is Einstein?” If they respond, “You, wise guy,” become very concerned and say, “But I’m not Einstein. Are you sure that’s what you meant? Why would you think I’m the physicist Albert Einstein? He died many years ago, you know.”
It doesn’t matter if you don’t sound genuine in your “stupidity,” the most important thing is to let the sarcastic person understand that you refuse to play their hurtful game. All joke-makers are embarrassed if they have to explain the point of their joke, and by pretending to be stupid, you are taking the fun out of it.
If someone sarcastically says “I really like your new hair style” reply back in an even more sarcastic tone “Oh, I really like YOUR new hair style!” even if they don’t have a new hair style. By accentuating the “your” back at them you will make them question whether you are being sarcastic or whether they do in fact have a new hair style.

6. You could merely just turn their words around. When you act like they’re NOT being sarcastic it just makes you look like a loser. Like the steps above, it makes you look dorky and not cool. You can just take it and laugh. Example, “Oh yeah I’m sure you know all about it.” Give it right back to them, a sarcastic person’s weakness is taking it right back. They expect you to take it like a wimp. You can say, “Oh yeah and you know so much about it too genius.”

Dengan orang sinis, don’t take it too serious. Hanya perlu sedikit lebih tenang untuk menghadapi dengan cerdik dan cerdas. Saya sedang belajar bagaimana menghadapi si sinis dengan tenang supaya bisa membalikkan kata-kata sinis mereka yang aneh. Kalau terus saya biarkan si sinis ini komentar memojokkan saya, lama-lama saya ini jadi bulan-bulanan. Saya sadar bahwa saya harus melawan. Ayo bangkit dari penindasan oleh orang-orang sinis! Masih terasa semangat 10 Novembernya, hehehešŸ™‚


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